Posts Tagged ‘sex’

Hello, readers!  I found this link via Diabetes Mine, and the story is from A Sweet Life, which are both fantastic diabetes resources.  I recommend you read them both often!

“Tethered to the Body” by Jane Kokernak is what I find to be a rather frank look at one person’s perspective of sex with an insulin pump.  Quite honestly, it is not my approach to sex with an insulin pump, and I was most affected by how engaged I was by a viewpoint so much different from my own.  If you didn’t click the first link in this paragraph, make sure you click this one here to go read the full article.

Now a bit of commentary if you’ve already read the article…

This line nearly broke me in half:

“I will never become the sexual self that the youthful me once imagined: whole, extraordinary, and seductively bare. That is a loss.”

Perhaps I am a different breed of woman, a different kind of person with diabetes.  I’ve had an insulin pump for many years now.  In fact, I have never known sex without an insulin pump.  I do not feel a burden when I detach for intimacy.  I’ve never felt that it stifles my sexual interests or creativity any more than other momentary diversions–leg cramps, difficult bra clasps, opening of condom wrappers.  Maybe detaching my tubing has become some weird form of foreplay for me!

Sure, there are moments where NOT having a pump would make sex easier, but I am perfectly happy and not terribly bittersweet to have my little plastic pancreas there with me.  A healthier me is a sexier me, right?  That’s how I see it.  Everyone with diabetes is different.  We all have vastly differing thoughts and feelings, even in shared experiences.  Please take a moment to consider sharing some of your thoughts and experiences by submitting a story to Sweet & Sexy today.  Use the info up top to submit…it’s easy.


Mistress D.


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Happy D-Blog Day to everyone out there in the DiabetesOC, and welcome to Sweet & Sexy! What can you expect from us? Why would we even think a blog like this is a good idea? What’s the big deal, anyway? Let’s talk.

I’m going to start by telling you what we are NOT: Sweet & Sexy is not here to be an erotica writing platform for people with diabetes, but we could recommend a few sites you might want to submit your steamy stories to, if you’re into that sort of thing. We are not here to be a diabetes dating service, though online connections can be pretty powerful, and if you fall in love via diabetes blog comments, we certainly would love to hear about it.

There is not a lot of frank talk out there about sex with diabetes, but isn’t there always a question to be asked? What do you do with your pump? What happens if you go low? It’s the same with dating. What do you disclose about diabetes and when? What do you say to a new lover who says, “Hey, what’s that little plastic thingy stuck to the back of your arm?” What kind of changes has diabetes made in your relationships? Maybe we don’t always want to put our names on embarassing situations.

Sweet & Sexy will take your stories, tips, and questions, publishing them with your name OR anonymously. We can all learn from each other’s experiences.

Now the disclaimer portion: This is going to be a more adult-oriented diabetes blog! Be prepared for frank discussion on sexuality. It may not always be the best place for readers under 17, but I wouldn’t discourage them from reading this. Sweet & Sexy is intended to be a diverse, welcoming, sex-positive diabetes blog, showing stories from all kinds of relationships, straight and queer, monogamous and polyamorous, vanilla and kinky.

But it’s not just about the naughty stuff! Relationships with diabetes can be tricky, from learning how to help a partner understand your hypoglycemia symptoms to dealing with the emotional repercussions of having a “bad diabetes day” to negotiating the best health plan for your family together. Should you reveal your diabetes on your online dating profiles? Can someone truly love you, even though you are stricken with a chronic illness? We hope to touch on everything.

Some of us have grown up with diabetes, some of us grew up and then had diabetes introduced into our lives. Sweet & Sexy is going to look at how diabetes touches the most intimate parts of our lives (heh heh) and how it affects our loving and sexual relationships. We want to do it with warmth, snarky humor, and even some naughty bits.

If you have questions, comments, or if you want to submit a post to Sweet & Sexy, please email me, your Editrix, Mistress D at sweetandsexydiabetes@gmail.com

We are immensely excited to bring you the first blog dedicated to love, sex, dating and relationships for people with diabetes!

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Keep an eye here for Sweet & Sexy…

The blog that addresses all the diabetes, sex and relationships questions you were afraid to ask! (Okay, and maybe some you were just curious about.)

Mistress D.

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